This century is accompanied with soceital standards of how a person’s life ought to be, that leaves a lot of humans shaping their lives to soceital standards. Soceity has made it mandatory for a female to get married after tertiary education or after a certain age, this has left a lot of females deaperate and depressed over total rubbish. You see females going the extra mile just to get a man, this is why there are so many failed marraiges in existence. So many of us need to understand that it’s not the wedding that counts but the marraige. But that’s not my point for today.
So many of the single sisters in our soceity today have been broken beyond repair, have been hurt so much and thrown to the corner for one reason or the other. Instead of healing, you hunt for a new boo. Instead of taking out time to get past your hurt and be a stronger person, you search for a replacement and this is why you keep getting hurt. I’ve had the opportunity to speak with some female figures that state that they heal faster when they have a replacement, these female figures have also come to realise that the act of replacement makes them hurt even more, because the new replacement doesn’t stay too long before he drops out.
Too many women want to be married but are walking in the path of a girlfriend, they are praying to God “Lord look at me,I’m still single, lord do not pass me by, i need a husband” but you’re still walking in the mindset and path of a girlfriend. Until you start walking in the path of a wife you can’t be wifed, it’s that simple. So many of you may say, there aren’t any good men, maybe you aren’t finding the good men because you’re still settling for bad boys. The good men won’t come when you still live in your hurt, they just aren’t hanging in your circle, this brings me to the point of clearing your clutter and your circle. You need to understand that you attract what you are and not what you want. You’re attracted to bad men or bad boys that’s why they keep doing you dirt. When you change who you are and your circle, when you go through the cleansing process, that is when the right people will stream into your life.
The last point is this, Chasing a man or telling him how much you love him and reasons you both should be together is not the right way to go, it only makes you feel desperate and stupid. So you may ask, what if God personally talked to me about this man being the one for me? I’ve come to realise within the last 24hours that the same God that spoke to you concerning the one for you would order the steps for that which he has revealed. Maybe God is not giving you what you want now because that which he has revealed has a specific time to happen. I’m talking from experience, when God spoke to me concerning a person i saw my self loving beyond control i didn’t know which way to go about it, I didn’t just get confirmation of who the person is or what our union would be like but i got revelations of ill attitudes this person had. Everytime i heard from God, there was a voice saying be calm, stay strong, be calm. This was a warning to be calm and not open my mouth but that’s where the mistake occurred. No man wants be part of the panel of judges listening to petitions or debates on why you love him or why you think you love him or why you both should be together. The same God that revealed to you would perfect it. Wait on his timing and stay calm in the mean time.